Five Minute Friday: “Broken”

I think of hearts metaphorically speaking. Broken after a severed relationship, severed by grief or a break-up or moving or death or relational discord.

And bones. I’ve had a few in my day – two broken arms when I was younger; a broken ankle when in college. Nothing since. (thank goodness!)

Broken implies a need to be healed. Waiting for restoration. Gently cradling and nursing the hurt place, the hurt bone, stabilizing what is broken so that healing can come. It will come. But it takes time.

It was six weeks of a cast on my arm. And you begin to get used to it before finally you’re free. But being healed and being whole feels strangely light after being broken. The process is painful but the result is beautiful. Getting that cast off my arm, and my arm felt like it was light as air. Same with the one a few years later; and then several years later at college. I was only too glad to say farewell to the cast and the crutches.

Now as to hearts after being broken. Well, that’s a different story. There is no six week cure. But the healing is just as sure. Just as certain. There’s simply more waiting involved.


I’m participating today in Lisa-Jo’s “Five Minute Friday” where you write for five minutes on a topic, unedited. Fun way to get a quick blog post and stir the creative writing process.

Five Friday Links

We are in day two of potty training boot camp, take two. It’s gone much better than round one so far – both girls have had successes; much fewer accidents than round one in January. More about all that in a future post. For now, my favorite links this Friday –

1. 10 things not to do when potty training by Organic Mom. Love this! Trying to remember each of these this round.

2. For my newlywed friends out there (I know you’re reading this, Shannon 🙂 and those not-so-newlywed – a beautiful devotional on “The Power of a Promise”

3. By Kat on Inspired to Action as a good reminder of identity: I may not be the est but I am the only

4. On (in)courage by Emily Freeman on women’s fear of invisibility – Please don’t let me disappear

5. Looking to cook healthy and in season but without all the planning? Check out The Fresh 20 whose tagline is compelling, “20 ingredients, 5 healthy meals.” I haven’t tried it yet but I want to.

Enjoy … and savor your weekend. May it be a time of rest, refreshment, or at least a break from your weekday routine.

11 things I learned in June

I am linking up with one of my favorite bloggers, Emily Freeman, over at Chatting at the sky, for this post. She also happens to be a friend of my BFF, Katherine, which I think makes me famous-by-association. She’s an inspiration for me through her grace-infused and humorous insights on her blog, and she’s also a published author. I am loving her book Grace for the Good Girl. More on that in a future post, I’m sure.

So, in no particular order, and with various degrees of importance to daily life, here are my “things I learned in June”:

1. Caffeine lowers the risk of dementia and other health issues. (Hooray!)

2. Related to #1, I can become addicted to caffeine after just three mornings in a row of 1-2 cups of coffee. (Meaning that if I don’t drink coffee in the morning on the 4th day, I’ll have a splitting headache all afternoon. Yikes!)

3. That plants (including our fruits and vegetables) have a circadian rhythm which they lose when stored in bright fluorescent supermarket lights. This rhythm helps them to fend off insects and might also give them more nutritional value. So make sure you turn off your refrigerator lights at night … ?!

4. Siri (the voice command on the iPhone) has an attitude! If she’s not helping me and I ask her to cancel what she was doing, she responds, “Forget it then,” with a very churlish tone. As if I need one more person with an attitude as a mom of toddler twins …

5. The concept of “spontaneous trait transference” means that “people unintentionally transfer to me the traits I attribute to other people.” Gretchen Rubin in The Happiness Project cites this research as extra incentive not to gossip about others, since what you’re telling someone about another person is what they may implicitly attribute to you. I.e., if I always complain about store clerks being so rude, my friends will associate me with the quality of being rude. Not sure how that works … but certainly another reason to follow God’s instruction not to gossip.

6. Four and five-year-olds are (generally) compliant as a rule; non-compliant as an exception. This is opposite of 2-year-olds, who are non-compliant as a rule and compliant only as an exception. This was my observation after helping with a 4- and 5-year-old class at our church’s Camp Jr.

7. Given the opportunity, Lucia will choose to dress like a princess when going to bed.

8. Volume buttons function as the camera shutter in iPhone 4 and above. (Thanks, Meghan, for enlightening us – a good friend and my favorite Apple employee.)

9. Adding cold water to an ice bucket cools a bottle of white wine faster. (Thanks, Leisa, for that advice.)

10. Feedly is way better than Google Reader, and I have happily transferred all my blog subscriptions over. Do so ASAP if you haven’t yet. It’s wonderful!

11. Although I enjoy building IKEA furniture, a 60+ step project started at 8:30pm will leave me bitter, exhausted, and frustrated when I’m still working on it at 11:30pm.

11. Blogging daily is overall a good mental challenge for me and helps me to capture life moments and process them. In this stage of being home with little ones, I feel like this is the one time of a day when I get to connect with others over various topics from deep to funny and everywhere in between. I may decrease in July, but I’ve enjoyed the sense of connection with you readers and the way it’s helpful for me to put my life into words.

Five Friday links

I love alliteration, and I love some sort of rhythm/structure/order. And so I’m going to be posting “five favorite Friday links” each week of blogs I’ve read and enjoyed. Here they are:

  1. “You May Be A Book Hoarder If …” at Barnes & Noble describes our family exactly. Our furniture dilemmas usually stem from the need of more bookshelves for all of our books. And, nope, we haven’t gone digital (which would make more sense – but then you lose the feel of the pages). One of my summer goals for our family is to do a book purge (gasp!) as I think this alone would simplify our lives a bit.
  2. In “There is now no condemnation,” my good friend Emily writes of mommy guilt and the freedom we can know from it.
  3. “On blogging and the rules that feel like rules but aren’t really” Lisa talks about the “good ole days” of blogging and reminds us all that blogging is meant to be enjoyable and free, not just about the rules that have crept up surrounding it.
  4. Our girls are only going to be starting preschool in the fall, but it’s never too soon to begin thinking and praying about school options. Gospel Coalition did a three part series, and here’s the first one on choosing public education.
  5. “Of summer’s lease and sabbath song” is a post as beautiful as its title on Jen Wilkin’s blog. This vignette alone captures what I love about it:
But the highest item on our summer agenda, and the one we all look forward to the most, is rest. There will be time to listen to the cicadas.
Here is a remarkable thing about the Christian faith: we have a God who commands us to rest. Our God commands us to hold still, to cease from labor, to actively enter into repose – not merely as a means to regain our strength, but as an act of worship.
The gods of other religions and the god of self, these demand ceaseless toil. To please these gods, worshippers work incessantly at the business of self-denial, approval-seeking, pilgrimage – repeated rites that strive to prove the worth of the supplicant and earn the favor of the deity.
Those who seek the approval of lesser gods commit themselves to a course of utter exhaustion.
But not the Christian. In our obedient observance of rest, the work of our Savior is understood most clearly. We rest not as an attempt to earn his approval, but as an assent that his approval has already been earned in the sun-going-down, Sabbath-initiating work of Christ on the cross. Christ worked that we may rest. He, in a gathering dusk, exhaling the first note of a blood-bought chorus of infinite rest.

Top 5 weekly links

Enjoy …

  1. When I read this post at “Chatting At The Sky,” I thought about the sweet group of middle and high school girls at the youth retreat I had the privilege of speaking at a few weekends ago – and these are three good words for any of us: “Go make art.” Excited to begin reading Emily Freeman’s book, Grace for the Good Girl, this week!
  2. From my new favorite pastor’s wife/counselor blogger at “Grace Covers Me,” a post about knowing God and basking in grace instead of focusing on others’ opinions: the more you know”
  3. Reassurance for my newly taken up habit of drinking coffee again (LOVING it). Where have you been the past few years, dear caffeine? I’ve missed you … This is your brain on coffee
  4. I’m on a home decorating kick lately, and *free* is always better for the budget. Love these over at French Press Mornings
  5. Some good, practical parenting wisdom answering the question, “Should I make my child apologize?” from Jen Wilkin