“I just am not a craft-type mom.” I’ve said this many times, so many times that I actually believe it and actively avoid most art projects with my preschoolers (at home). But in reading Brene Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection, I was confronted with my suppressed creativity and my need to rediscover the creative side of my life as part of who I am. You see, I have been described as “creative” for most of my life, until about 10 years ago when I started seminary (no coincidence, I’m sure … ha!). I always loved our weekly art class in elementary and middle school, so much so that I chose to take a few years of art in high school as electives. All throughout growing up, I was usually cultivating some sort of project, whether a school project or one of my own making – like the time I bought a book on how to draw flowers and practiced all summer, or the scrapbook I made of important people and newspaper clippings as a 4th grader. [interesting to look back on these and read them!] Part of the appeal of my undergraduate elementary education degree was the opportunity to put creativity into practice with teaching children how to learn. Not to mention how many fun projects I got to work on (like preparing a unit on how to teach 4th graders about the rainforest) while my fellow college students labored in their organic chem labs and philosophy term papers.
But then I graduated from college, worked as a teacher, and lost some creativity amidst the work that it was to teach and to pay bills and to manage relationships. And then I went to seminary for a counseling degree, and creativity was further suppressed by deep thoughts on theology and the brokenness of our world and relationships. But it shouldn’t have been. Because this is exactly where creativity is most needed: at the intersection of God’s beauty and the world’s brokenness. How else do we bridge that gap without some redemptive creativity? How else can we image our Creator, who made light out of darkness and brought order and beauty from chaos? I certainly had glimpses of this, through a few professors who creatively taught instead of rotely lectured; and in my “counseling children” course where we learned creative methods (even play) as a way to unlock a child’s emotions and thought life.
Personally though, I seemed to put creativity on the back burner once I became a mom to twins. Survival was the name of each hour of each day for the first six months especially, and probably up until the past six months (they are three years old now). I just didn’t have time. And then the MESS of getting my kids involved in creative pursuits? No, thank you. I was already sweeping up daily and spending more time than I wanted to in household chores. Add cleaning up paint or glitter or glue to this? I don’t think so.
Enter these words I read today:
‘I’m not the creative type ‘ doesn’t work. There’s no such thing as creative people and non-creative people. There are only people who use their creativity and people who don’t. Unused creativity doesn’t just disappear. It lives within us until it’s expressed, neglected to death, or suffocated by resentment and fear.
There will be more on this topic. Let’s call today “part 1 of Heather’s rediscovery of creativity.” Part 2 to follow. After I go do something creative … any suggestions? What do you enjoy as a creative pursuit?
8 thoughts on “why a self-described non-crafty mom needs creativity”
Like find creative ways to get the kids to enjoy cleaning up after themselves?
It doesn’t have to be something much, as you know, Heather. Take another look at your 4th grade important people scrapbook. You were putting together images as they pleased your eye and somehow seemed to fit. You can still do the same thing with magazines you’re through with. The girls would probably love to make color books with you- all you have to do is cut out items of similar color and put them on a page. I made a 3″ x 3″ color book just for fun once and it is surprising how satisfying even a little project can be. 🙂 Happy creating!
ps- just opened an Etsy shop, and the little collage cards on there are examples of playing with creativity, just arranging found items in a pleasing way. http://www.etsy.com/shop/jewelofbayshore
There are lots of crafting kits out there that come with all the supplies you need. Many have little to no mess. Walmart barn n noble and any crafty store usually had these kinds of things. I even occasionally see them at the dollar store.
Hannah R. has the link to the cutest felt leave garland on her blog. I may even attempt it myself.
Thanks, friends, for your advice! Michelle, quite practical – I love that. 🙂 Lara, Stephanie, and Amy – good suggestions of things to do. I think I’ll try a color book for starters. That sounds easy and fun. So glad you’re now on Etsy, Lara!
Fidget and I would love to come over with magazines- or you bring the girls and we’ll make a mess at our house! It will be such fun and Rosa will enjoy getting to borrow some little sisters for a time. 🙂 Let me know if you can work us in!
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